4.5.12
Go to dictionary.com and look up truth. I already did
for you, so here’s what you would have found.
Truth: noun, the truth or actual state of mater, or conformity with fact or reality, or a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like. I prefer the last definition. But here’s what’s buzzing around in my complicated intellect, it’s good to tell the truth, and people like honesty. No one wants to be lied to or fed fallacies. Wrong. Develop your own opinion, but I’m going to give mine as simple as possible.
Truth: noun, the truth or actual state of mater, or conformity with fact or reality, or a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like. I prefer the last definition. But here’s what’s buzzing around in my complicated intellect, it’s good to tell the truth, and people like honesty. No one wants to be lied to or fed fallacies. Wrong. Develop your own opinion, but I’m going to give mine as simple as possible.
Person A, “How does this outfit make me look?”
Person B, *checks out the attire with deliberation*
If the clothes don’t actually look as good in your mind as you thought, you’d prefer that your friend would lie to you so your feelings don’t get hurt.
Your relationship just ended…it’s so much easier to bear when your bros are telling you how easily you can get another girl. From a girl’s perspective: It’s much easier to point out every bad part about your former boyfriend. However, neither of your friends are dealing with the actual problem. Perhaps the problem is: you were cheating; you didn’t put any real effort into the relationship; your bad attitude was constant and finally wore down the relationship to bits. I’m just going out on a whim here, but the relationship could have went downhill when you moved things much too quickly; you found it easier to slip by some white lies to make things “easier” with your conscious.
Person B, *checks out the attire with deliberation*
If the clothes don’t actually look as good in your mind as you thought, you’d prefer that your friend would lie to you so your feelings don’t get hurt.
Your relationship just ended…it’s so much easier to bear when your bros are telling you how easily you can get another girl. From a girl’s perspective: It’s much easier to point out every bad part about your former boyfriend. However, neither of your friends are dealing with the actual problem. Perhaps the problem is: you were cheating; you didn’t put any real effort into the relationship; your bad attitude was constant and finally wore down the relationship to bits. I’m just going out on a whim here, but the relationship could have went downhill when you moved things much too quickly; you found it easier to slip by some white lies to make things “easier” with your conscious.
Those are all surface things, but I might as well go deeper.
Since, this may be one of the very few truths you may or may not hear. Your
work ethic hasn’t been the best lately. You blame it on lack of sleep, too much
stress, and it’s just your (higher authorities’) fault. Have you ever
considered that the problem is…oh I don’t know, you? Perhaps you choose to go
out Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night. Have a few drinks, then wake up
Sunday with a headache, so clearly
you’re not capable of getting any work done for another few hours until the
pain ceases.
How about the fact that you spend too much time with your
significant other. Or you don’t spend enough? Perhaps you don’t really have
one, but you jump from one person to the next rather quickly. Why is that? Must
be because you had a bad experience with something in your past, so you’re uber
clingy, extremely distant, and indecisive. Yeah… that’s the core issue.
I could go on. But I won’t. The truth hurts.
Hurts so much that we chose to reject the words when they are blatantly in our face. Once we become angry enough, we might twist the words so they’re not as painful and push of the conviction in our heart. We don’t want the truth. We want, well, exactly what we want. Words that fulfill our needs or complete whatever it may be that we’re looking for. Sometimes, often more than less, the truth does not fit into the category of comfort. I’m not bashing anyone, just telling the truth. I admit it in my own life, I avoid the truth. When a friend tells me the way I’m living is unhealthy and it’s for a,b, and c reason, and she is absolutely correct. Ouch. Those words cut through me like I was butter. Now I didn’t tell her that (more truth hidden) but it did.
Hurts so much that we chose to reject the words when they are blatantly in our face. Once we become angry enough, we might twist the words so they’re not as painful and push of the conviction in our heart. We don’t want the truth. We want, well, exactly what we want. Words that fulfill our needs or complete whatever it may be that we’re looking for. Sometimes, often more than less, the truth does not fit into the category of comfort. I’m not bashing anyone, just telling the truth. I admit it in my own life, I avoid the truth. When a friend tells me the way I’m living is unhealthy and it’s for a,b, and c reason, and she is absolutely correct. Ouch. Those words cut through me like I was butter. Now I didn’t tell her that (more truth hidden) but it did.
Take a minute and think about the last time someone was
genuinely honest with you. Or you witness the truth come out in a friend’s
situation. What were the repercussions? Good, bad, indifferent? In the end, the
truth sets us free. We never see the end of a situation (well it is the future..)
so we like what is here and now. We seek to be satisfied in the moment and
ignore the consequences or the possible happy ending that may occur. The truth
may hurt, and it might be hard to admit. Maybe you’re struggling to be honest with
a friend because you’re scared about the outcome. With these situations, most
people go through the strife from the truth and it ends in a better result than
you could have guessed. Everyone finds it difficult to think about the future
results, but try to gear your life into truth in honesty, no matter how much
you naturally shield away from it, freedom is better than enslaved by lies.
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